Fairy Secrets

What Does “Fairy Secrets” Mean?

What Are “Fairy Secrets”?

“Fairy Secrets” refers to mystical experiences that miraculously transform a person and their life.

Explaining the difference between Fairy Secrets and other transformative mysticism is difficult. Mystical experiences tend to be indescribable. But my heart recognizes Fey qualities. And it’s not important to state, “This is Fey, and that is not.” In fact, that can cause you trouble. What matters is transformations, respect for otherworldly experiences, and the power they give us to take care of ourselves and Gaia’s children.

By serving others, I don’t mean you have to give other people those experiences. There are other magical ways to help. And help does not have to be magical. Serving others might mean making chicken soup for a sick neighbor. Or patiently listening to a friend who needs to vent. Or helping save a forest. Head in the clouds, feet on the ground. One reason we are gifted otherworldly experiences is because they inspire us to care for ourselves and others. This includes worldly care.

Here’s another way to look at it:

Fairy Gods Give Us Miracles

Fairy Secrets are magic spells cast by the Fairy Queen, King, and Their court to help us out. The spells cause otherworldly events that bring miraculous changes. They can be called “miraculous” because they’re beyond a human’s usual power to create. Or they might have otherwise seemed impossible.

What to Do After the Fairy Gods Give You a Miracle

Often, the changes are permanent, if you nurture them.

Here are some suggestions for nurturing them:

* If the mystical experience provided a spiritual breakthrough, try to maintain spiritual practices.
* If there was a magical breakthrough, try to keep improving and using your magic.
* Serve others. This also helps stop magic from becoming addictive escapism instead of a healthy tool.

What Kind of Change
Can a Fairy Secret Give You?

A Fairy Secret can create freedom from an inner and/or outer restriction that limited you severely and was impossible to overcome previously. The limit might’ve been emotional, societal, or other. It might have existed your entire life.

A person might acquire joy, magic, confidence, money, and fulfillment that everyone, including themselves, said was impossible.

Fairy Secrets Are Not Arrogant Dogmas

I cannot tell you how often I have counseled an individual who was devastated by an arrogant Witch teacher:

A teacher who fosters colonizer culture insists that only a special few can receive and bestow Fairy Secrets. Dogma!

Fairy Secrets are not passwords, whispered to a select few who gate-keep magical power.

Those few usually boast about Fairy Secrets. If they were true Secrets, the boasts would make them vanish.

Those few hurt themselves. Arrogance and dogma close the heart and path to Fairy Secrets. This is another reason that proclaiming, “This is Fey, and that is not” is a problem.

Fairy Secrets Are Not Ideas

Logical words cannot convey Fairy Secrets. Mysteries transcend fixed definitions. However, the Mysteries can be experienced, during major rituals and at significant life crossroads.

Music, poetry, dance, painting, etc., can point us toward Fey Mysteries.

Please note: I don’t usually consider Mysteries and Secrets to be synonymous. I am using them synonymously here. I will point out exceptions. Or context will make them obvious.

Fairy Secrets Are Alive.
All Mysteries Are Alive

Anything alive is ever-shifting. Magic changes from precious, unique moment to moment. Magic is a science with fixed rules, but so is meteorology, and the weather changes from day to day and place to place. Colonizer culture teaches us that everything is fixed, repeatable, and unvarying. Colonizer culture is death culture.

Shamanic culture is the opposite. Understanding life’s constant mutability allows us to see the precious, unique moment.

So, let’s say I experience a Mystery that brings me deep deep inside myself and/or other realms, within moments. And thus I am completely in touch with my power and my life goal. I have been given a wonderful gift. However, it is not an object to gain and own forever. It was a moment in time and requires follow-through. There are many ways that a vision can go wrong afterwards.

For example, I have encountered people who thought their remarkable vision made them superior to other people. Or who used their visions to invalidate mystical experiences unlike their own. Their made themselves and others miserable. This is another reason that “This is Fey, and that is not” is problematic.

Amazing visions are actually quite common. The measure of a person is what they do after a vision. (Sometimes, a mystical experience can go wrong right then and there. That’s beyond the scope of this essay, but feel free to contact me if you need help.)

A Fairy Secret Is Not the Ultimate Goal,
But a Step along Life’s Road

A Witch teacher who buys into colonizer culture tells their students that once you have “the” Fairy Secrets, you have reached the ultimate goal.

In traditional Fairy Witchcraft, experiencing a Fairy Secret is not the end of the road, but a step along it.

We can’t rest on our laurels.

Fairy Secrets are part of life, not excluded to a single moment during which a hierarchical Witch sits on their high horse and deigns to bestow a Mystery.

More about Fairy Secrets as Living Mysteries

The living breath of a Fairy Secret is suffocated by dogma and the arrogant use of words. Fairy Secrets are not specific spellings of occult words, a rule about how to pronounce words, or other dogma. Those who try to trap Mysteries in verbal and prescriptive boxes limit their experiences.

The Fey Folk don’t care whether someone calls them Fairy, Faerie, Faery, or Fred. But they avoid people with arrogant pretensions. … Well, kind and good Fey avoid pretentious people. Evil Fey will gather to harm them.

Finding Fairy Secrets Requires Freedom

Freedom and loving support open a path to Mysteries.

A so-called Fairy Secret that is part of a dogmatic oppressive lesson does not change life for the better. At best, it is a temporary fix.

This is not to say that you cannot learn magical techniques that help you experience Fey Mysteries.

Mysteries Vanish Until You Need Them Again

Here, when I use the word Mystery, I’m not referring to Fairy Secrets alone. When we enter a Mystery, we receive Divine guidance about our challenges and life path. Obstacles clear. Fairy Secrets lovingly surround you, centering you in your magical, miraculous, Fey, self.

If we discover a Mystery that will sustain us through a lifetime, the sustenance will likely come and go. Even if we intellectually remember the Mystery, its vibrancy comes and goes. And it is that vitality that sustains us.

Instead of that lifelong Mystery, I suspect we are just as likely to experience one we need solely to take the immediate steps toward a life goal. Then we receive only the guidance and power that we need in the moment.

The Gods Give Different Fairy Secrets
to Different Witches

Fairy Witches might have Fairy Secrets in common, but everyone has their own as well. In traditional Fairy Witchcraft, what is healthy and profound for one Witch might be unhealthy and harmful for another. Or at least a time-wasting, wild goose chase that derails you from reaching your heart’s desire. So the Fey Gods reveal different things to different people. Fairy Secrets enchant you and your life to provide what you need.

Fairy Secrets and Witch Teachers

A teacher can lead you toward the Fairy Mysteries. You can also find the Secrets on your own.

Going it alone is better than having a teacher who thinks their classes are the sole path to Mysteries. Ditto a teacher who thinks you need to receive all wisdom from them.

A good teacher recognizes that you have your own wisdom. And they surely do not think that their classes are the sole door to miracles.

A good teacher is invaluable support. They can make meeting a Fairy Secret likelier and safer. A mystical experience powerful enough to create a miraculous change can have pitfalls. A teacher can help you avoid them during the experience. After it, a good teacher offers follow-up lessons to avoid problems and maintain the improvement. Again, Fairy Secrets are not the end goal. They are steps in the process of building better lives for ourselves and all of Gaia’s children.

Pointing to Fairy Secrets

A good Fairy Witchcraft teacher points to Secrets, provides techniques to find them, and opens paths, instead of spelling Secrets out. Again, Mysteries are not theoretical explanations. Directing a student’s attention, providing techniques, and opening paths empowers them, because they have to do their part of the work. No one can hand you a Fairy Secret.

That is one reason that rituals can be remarkably effective. In my classes, you don’t have to listen to me drone on theoretically. I lead experiential rituals. They are transformative beauty—ecstatic mysticism that can make worldly and spiritual dreams come true. This paragraph relates not just to Fairy Secrets but also to ongoing miraculous shifts that are part of an enchanted life.

A few individuals wanted me to hand them a Mystery, doing all the work for them, instead of guiding them to their own experience. They were disappointed in my rituals.

There is one way I kind of hand my students Fairy Secrets: During my classes, I give spiritual transmissions as well as lead rituals. However, the recipient still has to do their part. You might think of it like this:

I help people tune into other realms, through rituals I channel and spiritual transmissions. And everyone has to do their part.

It is usually a few simple things, such as having an open mind. And willingness to be in a spiritual and magical process, instead of thinking like a consumer who is acquiring an object.

It is not that I demand that anyone to do anything. For example, you decide whether you will join in a chant. However, simply being in a ritual or magic class might feel silly to someone. If they risk feeling foolish and bear their discomfort, it can give way to childlike delight that makes magic bloom. Risking foolishness is one of the few simple acts needed to open to Fairy Secrets and other miracles during my events.

Fairy Secrets: The Fairy Queen’s breath lightly on my eyes with the Fey King’s kiss on my forehead enchanted everything.—Francesca De Grandis

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Fairy Witch, Francesca De Grandis, is the bestselling author of Be a Goddess!. She is also a star-drenched dragon, lucky charm, star-child, and full-time community Witch for forty years. She uses magic to fight colonizer culture and help wild hearts thrive, in long-distance classes, psychic readings, and healings. Her Goddess spirituality embraces practical magic. Trained from birth in a Shamanic family tradition, her Witchcraft is blessed by ancestors. Her Fairy Witchcraft is also called Faerie Shamanism. European Witchcraft has traditionally been Shamanic for many practitioners. Francesca developed Shamanic theories, methods, and rituals that have been a seminal influence on modern Paganism and alternative spirituality.

Italian Ancestors, Prejudice, Life’s Cycles, & Useful Magic

Italian Ancestors, Prejudice, Life’s Cycles, & Useful Magic

I’ve been looking into immigration to Italy.

As I research to see if immigrating to Italy is possible for me, I think about my ancestors and the cycles of life.

If I move to Italy, a cycle completes.

You see, Nonna arrived in New York in 1902 or 1903, when prejudice against Italians was rampant. Things have changed.

Things have not changed. They have become the same again because life is cyclical.

In rural Pennsylvania, from which I moved a few years ago, people used the N-word for me because my looks are typical Southern Italian (as opposed to the northern Italian blonde, blue-eyed, and very pale stereotype). I lived in fear for my life because my “nice white” neighbors did not want me in their “nice white” neighborhood. The growing fascism in the U.S. had emboldened them.

I’m not going into all the details because any intelligent person can imagine what they were.

But I’ll say these few things: Someone stood in my living room threatening me. They stood in my home, the place that should’ve been my safety. Toward the end of my time in Pennsylvania, as the hostility escalated, a friend visited a few times a week, so my neighbors would see that I was not an old woman living alone and vulnerable. I was driven from my home by racists. My home, which I worked decades to be able to buy, is gone.

I have no Pollyanna statement to make about what happened.

That does not mean I am without hope or optimism. Nor am I without useful, practical magic that makes all the difference.

A Good Life in All Seasons, with Help from Fairy Gods and Other Ancestors

Things come, things go. That is the nature of life. Always, the cycles.

And I have Fairy Gods. They have always backed up struggling individuals, lending powerful magic to fight oppression and other problems. In every cycle of my life, the good and the bad, the Fairy Queen and King and Their court stand by me.

I am part of the cycles of life, part of the cycle of the comings and goings. And my ancestors, which include the Fairy Gods, line up behind me in every season.

Nonna, whose picture is at the top of this post, arrived in the U.S. at the age of 15. The strength it took for her to settle in at that young age and build a life here is part of my heritage. It fuels my magical spells.

Mine is a good life. During my last three years in Pennsylvania, before I could get everything organized to leave, I feared for my life every day. Despite the terror and possibility of violence and death at any moment, it was still a good life.

The Fairy Gods Created Useful, Practical Magic for Us

I know my spells helped keep me safe and sane and helped me move from Pennsylvania as soon as possible. It is normal to be afraid in dire circumstances—even if you trust the protection magic you do. But Fairy magic mitigated the fear tremendously and kept me spiritually whole—instead of utterly traumatized—in other ways as well.

My sweet Fairy Queen and King offer us—Their children—practical spells for real life. They put Their divine power and down-to-earth wisdom into those spells.

My Gods, thank you for Fairy magic and everything else you give me.

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Francesca De Grandis, bestselling author of Be a Goddess!, trained from birth in a centuries-old Shamanic family tradition that includes both Italian magic (La Vecchia Religione) and Celtic Witchcraft.

The Year’s Dark Months Are a Magic Cauldron

The Year’s Dark Months Are a Magic Cauldron

A Fairy Yearwheel Ritual With Flowers

My paperwhite bulbs arrived a few weeks ago. The above photo shows some of them the day they arrived, after I nestled them into water, to start growing.

Growing paperwhites inside has become one of my Pagan holiday season rituals in recent years.

I developed a ritual that is the growing of paperwhites. It is one of my year wheel practices. Now I consider growing paperwhites to be among the Fairy Queen’s magic spells for the fall and winter months.

Over the dark months of the year, the ritual unfolds, giving me many blessings.

For example, the bulbs I started a few weeks ago will bloom in the dark of winter. The flowers’ bright star shapes and luxurious scent will lift my spirits from winter doldrums. Lovely flowers lift the spirits, but my paperwhites will do it all the more because I add ritual elements to growing them.

They’ll also remind me that the winter darkness is the Goddess’ womb. This understanding can be a bit of an antidote to depression caused by winter darkness. The ritual elements I add allow the paperwhites to help me experience myself as Her luscious, beloved child within that womb—that winter darkness. The experience is an effective antidote.

The blossoms also remind me that in the winter darkness, I am a bright star reborn every year.

Traditional European Witchcraft’s Power and Subtlety

Traditional European Witchcraft is not always overt. Instead of visible rituals, Witch Spirituality is often internal, an ongoing Shamanic journey through life. Visible manifestations might be, as an example, enjoying one’s day. Another visible manifestation might be attempts to make a positive difference in the world. In other words, visable manifestations might the rituals’ results on the mundane plane. They can be quite striking even though the rituals are not always so “impressive.”

Growing my paperwhites unfolds as subtle rituals throughout the dark time. The rituals include contemplations but they are more than thoughts in my head. These musings are enmeshed in magical spells, and thus shift my energy and the energy of my home, blessing it. The magic might help bring prosperity, wisdom about challenges I face, and just about any other blessing.

So not only do I remember that I am their child reborn. I experience the rebirth, in all its glory and power, as the paperwhites ritual develops over the later dark months.

I experience being held lovingly close by my Goddess, the Fairy queen, as well as by the Fairy king. I need this experience because I can get SADD during the winter. The paperwhite magic mitigates that.

Paperwhites rituals are hearth magic. Kitchen magic is often viewed as shallow and not very powerful. It can be one of the most powerful magics on the planet. I teach a Kitchen Magic course that goes deep deep deep.

We find Fairy secrets in many ways. We lose them if we become ego-ridden and think the only way we can claim them is to boast of them, shouting from the rooftops. We lose them unless we have the humility to hold them close in simple practices.

All my classes embody the Fairy secrets and include lessons about the various ways you can find Fairy secrets, as well as ways you can maintain them in your life. Several of my courses do this without any of their lessons including the term Fairy secrets.

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Fairy Witch, Francesca De Grandis, is the bestselling author of Be a Goddess!. She offers classes, psychic readings, and healings. Her Goddess spirituality embraces practical magic spells. Trained from birth in a Shamanic family tradition of Italian (La Vecchia Religione) and Celtic Witchcraft, her Witchcraft is an ancient Faerie Shamanism. An Italian Witch is also known as a Strega. Francesca equates Fairy Witchcraft with Faerie Shamanism.

In the Goddess’ Care

Basking in Goddess Love

A Three-Month Immersion in the Presence of the Divine

The Goddess’ care of you will improve everything in your life, both mystic and mundane. Consistently experience Her love for you. Viscerally feel trust in love from the Divine so you relax as you go about your day. Reside in empowerment from the Fairy Gods.

What Is Basking in Goddess Love?

Basking in Goddess Love is a three-month immersion in the Presence of the Divine.

The event consists of half-hour rituals, three times a week, via teleseminar—group phone calls. No special technology; just dial your phone.

The whole time, every meeting, will be ritual, during which we simply spend time with Fairy Gods. (The word Gods includes male, female, and any other gender Deity.) In other words, our sole activity: to be in the presence of the Divine.

The exceptions will be a few preparatory steps, which I lead during the meetings. For example, we’ll set up protection to create a safe space for ritual or will center so you can focus on the rite. You’ll also need three minutes after each session to do a special grounding I’ll teach.

How Can a Half-Hour Just Being with Fairy Gods Help Me?

Simply being in Their company is to receive all blessings.

The rituals will be a chance to completely give yourself over to care from the Fey Gods.

When I spend a half-hour visiting my Gods, everything changes. No matter how much negativity or despair I feel, how many problems have piled up, or how much evil I see in the world, if I spend a half-hour with my Gods, I turn into a completely different person—the truest me. I become more centered and strong. Ideas and solutions I need come to me intuitively. A positive attitude is easier to sustain.

The energy around me shifts, too. My luck is better. Throughout the day, I’m more likely to feel my Gods by my side, the wind at my back, and my feet firmly on my path.

Trauma, Shamanism, Divinity

I want the world to be my talisman. I want the whole day to be my talisman. But how do I reach that talismanic reality when there’s so much horror and woundedness all around me in the world, every day?

Despite challenges, trauma, and the cruelty we see, the Great Mother Goddess—Magna Mater, known worldwide as the Fairy Queen—and other loving Gods can help us have the inner power to control our lives and make a better world.

Simple experiential awareness of Their presence helps heal trauma.

Repeatedly focusing on companionship with Them also brings us into a beautiful liminal space in which we shift into peace, prosperity, healing, power, and happiness.

Some of us need empowerment more than ever right now. Experiential awareness of the presence of the Old Gods provides it.

Consistent ritual is vital in difficult times. During crisis, enrolling in this event might be one of the most important steps you take. For one thing, it’ll help bring the most powerful you forward to face challenges and accomplish exactly what’s needed.

Schedule

Basking in Goddess Love meets for three months, starting May 2.

Three times a week, I will lead half-hour-long ceremonies via group telephone calls.

To participate, simply dial the phone.

We’ll meet from 2:00 to 2:30, Eastern standard time—11:00 to 11:30, Pacific time—on Mondays, Wednesday, and Thursdays.

Reserve Wednesday August 3 and Thursday August 4, the usual time, for makeup sessions in case I’m unavailable for planned sessions.

Enrollment is $250 a month for three months. Your carrier might charge you for the calls.

I’m charging far less than I would usually for the amount of work I’ll be doing, because you needn’t attend every ritual. You have the yummy option of coming to all of them, but you can miss meetings without wasting your money. Show up when you can, even if it’s only half of the meetings.

I won’t repeat information and rituals that you missed. If that leaves you unclear about something during a meeting you’re in, just do the best you can, going along for the ride. You receive huge benefits when you simply show up for rituals in which you feel a Divine presence. Plus the accumulative effect of the rituals’ loving energy is huge. More about the accumulative effect is below.

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Basking in Goddess Love can be used as one of the two qualifying electives needed to participate in the advanced Fairy Witch Training .

Are You Thinking, “I’m Too Busy for These Rituals”?

When I’m not centered in my Gods’ love for me, I lose far more time than the three half-hours a week we’ll do ritual. Without that centering, I waste time on worry, obsession, time-robbing bad habits like too much social media, and ineffective solutions to problems so I am battling them endlessly.

In ancient shamanic culture, tribes were busy—hunting, weaving, etc.,—and all the more so during crisis. However, they didn’t try to shoulder on without group rites. Sacred group meetings were part of the everyday, even during major upheaval.

More Benefits from Being in the Presence of Fairy Gods

I find the Old Gods so beautiful that, when I am conscious of Them, as we will be during the rituals, Their beauty somehow reveals and affirms the full extent of my own inner and outer beauty. This is self-confidence to the max.

Experiencing Their beauty also centers me into my wisdom, gloriousness, and power. I also center into a flow of beneficial synchronicities.

Their beauty washes away my doubt and pain.

When I am aware of the presence of the Fairy Queen and the other kindly Fairy Gods, They are more able to lend me all Their powers.

They are more able to give me assistance, sustenance, magic, joy, and good luck.

How Do I Benefit from Repeatedly Spending a Half-Hour with Gods?

After visiting with Them on a regular basis for a while, you start to feel Them with you more consistently, not just during our rituals or on the days you attend them.

A half-hour with Pagan Gods three times a week snowballs into ongoing blessings, for example, you more consistently go about your life centered into your truest needs and wants, and you live in peace and love.

The sum of the whole becomes greater than its parts. This includes extensive healing. This three-month immersion is a soul-healing, which is greatly needed by some of us in these crazy times.

Healing includes recovering from ancestral traumas.

If You Know How to Visit Gods Without a Facilitator:

If you have the skills to visit Gods on your own, it might be hard for you to get around to doing that, unless you are part of a scheduled group.

And it can be hard—if not near impossible—to find time and willingness to spiritually tend to oneself on one’s own.

Honestly, part of why I’m leading this group is so that I have to show up three times a week to hang out with beautiful people and my sweet Gods. It’s amazing how much we humans can resist the very things that are best for us and that we love.

If lack of time keeps you from shamanic self-care, including creating or choosing rituals to take care of yourself, I have your back. I have rituals already prepared for you.

You needn’t go it alone.

What Will Our Visits with Gods Be Like?

To be in the company of the Fairy Queen and all our other good Fairy Gods is to be in Their hearts, Their care, Their magic, Their realm.

The Old Gods are miracle makers so a half-hour with Them can accomplish a lot.

For three months, we will be immersed in the source of all power.

Otherworldly time spent with Them is a nourishment and joy unlike almost anything else.

There will be various rituals. Here are some of them. We will:

* Visit the Goddess’ garden of bounty. She never kicked us out of the primordial garden. The Biblical story that we were thrust from the garden is a lie tailored to convince us we need to toil miserably for our nourishments. No! The Old Gods will welcome us into the garden and shower bounty on us.

* Also visit the Avalon isle and other Fey realms where Gods walk.

* Dwell in magic. The current of magic that flows through the universe is the living presence of the Gods and Their love for us. When we sink into that magical flow, it carries us to our dearest goals.

* Abide in Their Love for us, in the sense of settling into that love and experiencing its transformation of us and our lives.

* Revel in connectivity with the cosmos. That connectivity is union with the Gods.

* Worship the Gods, not in the usual sense of uplifting them while demeaning ourselves but in a mutual, empowering celebration of ourselves and Them.

* Nestle into the good luck that flows throughout existence. Good luck is the Fairy Gods’ care for us.

We Will Avoid Hard Spiritual Work, LOL

I am planning rites that are joyful and easy. Sometimes shamanism is hard. But not always.

Though this event nurtures inner growth, it is unlike many of my events. We will not pursue the usual vigorous disciplines I teach. For example, the focus on inner growth will not include examining oneself for behavior, feelings, and ideas that hurt oneself and others.

A mystical approach that does not include hard work can be escapism and function like a drug unless accompanied by the ongoing spiritual practices that I teach. But they are not part of this upcoming event because everything has its season.

There is a time to simply be in the presence of Deity. That is what we will do.

Catch a breath. Rest, recoup, regroup.

Relax. Let yourself have ongoing easy spiritual sustenance.

During every ritual, I also give a direct spiritual transmission.

To define my transmissions: I was born generating a beneficial field of energy. During our meetings, it adapts to your needs, e.g., personal growth, soul-healing, physical health, joy, safety on the mundane and etheric planes, the spiritual strength to get back up after life’s knocked you down. The transmissions do not focus on one benefit only, but bless you as a whole being. They also add luck to your efforts to improve your life.

Skepticism about Spirituality Is Healthy

Be Skeptical.

If you’re dubious about these rituals accomplishing what I’ve outlined, you’re smart. The world is full of “spiritual” con-artists.

My claims aren’t hype. If one of my services or books accomplished something for you that nothing else had, that begins to give you the real picture.

I trained from childhood as a shaman. I dedicated my life to developing shamanic skills and innovative ritual methodologies and to becoming a guide capable of addressing different life arenas at depth.

I can make a half-hour shamanic experience extraordinary.

Don’t take my word. Trust what your gut tells you. … Does it say my methods create miracles?

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